Not everyone from back then has cancer and asthma. And exposing a little baby to them really sucks. I figured hed just be gone in a few months. In particular, how do you normally handle discipline situations in your household with your son? Plus we had a host of distant relatives who — when they came to visit for holidays, special occasions, after church, whatever — smoked as well. Validate their feelings by listening and don't just brush them off as juvenile. She will smoke 100% of the time after eating.
A multi-agency team is continuing to provide care and support. I really feel for your mom here. However, if she wants to smoke in her house we will be staying with other family. Im losing my mind here! You can leave but there is no coming back. Yep, that sounds like my girl. Visiting a stinky house on occasion is way better than not getting to know your grandma.
That time it was -always- outside, with teeth brushing, hand washing after. She will not change unless you have a very uncomfortable conversation - even then she might not. No smoking within 25 feet of doors entrances to buildings. My mother in law smokes and it really disturbs me now that I have a baby 6mths. A chain-smoking 12-year-old has become Britain's youngest mum. I am 2 months away from delivering my first child and am wrestling with what to do when my child is born.
Overall be firm, try to be understanding that it may not stop overnight, and be prepared to follow through with consequences. The first thing she will do in the morning is smoke. Non-smokers just don't get it. So much for being in love. Try nicotine patches, snoose or e-cigarettes first. Most of the studies that they used for the meta study were for self reporting of asthma-like symptoms such as the coughing and wheezing, along with shortness of breath, etc.
It still bugged me, but at least my daughter got to know her grandmother a little. My grandmother inhaled 3 packs a day. It just requires some social finesse and a willingness to work toward a solution to the problem. Its my choice, its my right. So imagine a house that on the surface is cleaned…. The grandmother could try to start smoking outside, so her home would be smoke free. Watching my own flesh and blood lighting up and inhaling the smoke into his lungs and clearly enjoying smoking took some getting used to.
The problem started when she said that giving up smoking doesn't have to be sudden. I do not think she will ever quit smoking any time soon. Believe it or not my mother-in-law is a respitory therapist she knows the danger and this is still a struggle, but it's a must if she's going to visit us. Everyone is different, and I've found that a great many of them are respectful in this regard. How should I handle this situation? He was mad at me, but I stood my ground, it was my child, not only that, it was my asthmatic child! Before that first cup of coffee, before that shower, before getting out of bed, before her feet hit the floor, she will light up. Once they turn 18 it's their life let them live it, as long as they are paying for it.
I stand by that statement. Ive never really liked or disliked it either. Not much different then what I have done for years now. You smell like smoke until you shower your body and clothes. It was hard saying no when part of me wanted to say yes.
My mother is so weird. Also, I was taking another poster at face value concerning her condition regarding asthma and allergies. I think everyone here is just too pig-headed to see the other options. Second, I know how you feel. Health is wealth and people will get away with whatever you let them. Second hand some is when you smoke in a room, with other people around, breathing it in. You will just have to come together and both you and your husband have to talk to her - must be a joint decision.
He needs those cigarettes far more than he needs me. If it's a daily half a pack + per day type habit the physical will be greater. Everyone is better off because of the rational perspective. It is dangerous for you too. His mother smokes cigs -chain smokes- inside the living room all day. I worry that the kids will see their dad smoking and consider it the norm.
Some people might feel this is extreme but I really feel that we have to set the tone early. That is what life becomes once you have a child! I said I wasn't a child. Right now non-smokers pretty much have a monopoly on indoor space, unless its a private home. We took a road trip to the beech for memorial day weekend, 8 hour drive, and every half hour she wanted to stop for a cigarette break. Finally, just before our summer break, she suggested that if I'd smoke like she did for the summer, at summer's end we'd both quit it'd be easier for her because she'd be quitting with me instead of for me and, if I'd do that for her, I'd understand what she's going through. I smoke in my car when Im driving, and I smoke when Im watching tv at home, I smoke when I take a bath, I smoke in bed, and I smoke when I go out. Then, there is me, who fears having children so much, exposing them to my family, that I have convinced myself I would rather not have children.