He just began school again after winter break and just yesterday he stayed he needs a break from things. We all do—those of us carrying the burden of caring for a bum—know what we ought to do to be free, only to face the other challenge of actually breaking it off. I mean seriously, you did say you tried to get him to lower his standards and just get any job, so is it about his ambition level? You are not his life director. We have no savings due to spending a lot of money repairing our apartment after a major leak in the roof. It would be nice if all of the unemployed could live together as a community and become self-sufficient.
Plus, I still make the same pay since I started, which is near minimum wage. Over the last 2 years we have lived here he has had various jobs. So, I was patient and reassessed everything. I don't know if I should give him a chance or not? Was lucky enough to have fairly low housing expenses, as we bought just before the recent bubble. Case is with insurance adjudication since 2011. On top of it, he has become a mean, nasty, verbally abusive man. I always imagine that moment of us together and that moment of me seeing my son for the first time.
I will also go to my dentist and ask about teeth whitening. Instead she generally sleeps till noon, watches tv all day and does minimal housework or job hunting. But, as I got older, I started to figure it out. This has been going on for years. He can't even use them for references because what they were doing was illegal. Our kids are pretty happy, but we all know we could have more. Like I'm trying to understand why a guy that isn't needing financial help and has a standard for type of job I myself refuse to work salesman or subordinate jobs like customer service.
But I really don't think there's any way to do that. If I were in his shoes I'd think I'd enjoy it when you came home. Ive tried to find my own job but it never works out because of my emotional and mental problems. We can't go anywhere or do anything ith friends because we don't have the money even to buy wine or appetizers if we get together. I wish I new you, I would defintely abuse the shit out of you and it would be a turn on.
I think I could write a book. Before you can get on the same page with your man, you have to get clear with yourself about what your true wants and your own rules. I feel horrible for it and it makes me more depressed. I was over qualified etc. I think that you're being too hard on him. I don't agree with that at all. Times have changed, men are not simply meal tickets, to ensure your financial stability.
There are so many options, you guys! Things obviously happen for a reason. I know I do, but I make it work still. Certainly not I would go crazy, personally. I fell in love with him and after a couple of months asked him to move in. But, like the others stated, gets up late, stays up late, smokes pot.
One that actually cares about him and his happiness not one that's concerned about him taking her out and footing the bill because she wouldn't ever pay for him. I had this happen a few years ago, a big contract ended. This way, you still get to date and have fun, without the stress of figuring out who is going to pay or worrying about getting into an argument about it. I can't be selfish enough to expect him to take care of all our couple's expenses when I know he's also trying to pay his own rent. Three months after we got married he got fired from his job.
I also cut grass, wash cars, clean houses along with other hands on job. He has nowhere to go anymore and he literally has only what I give him. Initially, I used to argue with him to let me pay 50% of the bill. I asked him repeatedly to leave many times. If you have not try everything, you may keep trying. The unemployed partner not support enough at house chores or even not bother to do anything. If your boyfriend is depressed and at loose ends, see if you and he can do some volunteer work together.