So how could he, in good conscience, bring an innocent, helpless life into the world, only to royally screw said kid's life up with his own mess of baggage? Perhaps she told you that her desire to have another child comes from loneliness. That set the tone for the rest of both the girls' behaviors. Be open, honest, and direct with her about your decision. Breastfeeding is not the end all and be all and formula is not bad. Yes, she was the last, although starting this blog almost two years ago felt a bit like giving birth and sometimes it's my favorite child, I still don't count it. By the same token, if I truly wanted a lot of kids, I wouldn't let anyone talk me out of that either, so it's not like I'm bashing large families — I'm bashing anyone who tries to pressure anyone else into living their idea of a ~best life~ instead of letting people follow their own bliss. Or, at the very least, my older friendships compare greatly to my sibling relationships.
All throughout the first trimester of my pregnancy, I had visions of raising a little girl. Really appreciate you taking the time to share so much, I will read it multiple times. Whether you are pregnant but , or even if your baby has already been born, these thoughts can make you feel very lonely — but you are not alone. I don't think stopping breastfeeding is going to result in you having more energy! I did at times think of abortion but decided that no matter who the father was or what I had to go through I would have the baby and love it with all of my being. I joined this group, because of this topic. What's happening with your boobs? I wish you all the best what ever you choose.
Have family dinners together without electronics on hand. My gums were swollen and bled. When I was a kid, my brother and I mostly hated each other. There are times when that kind of dependence on the well-being of someone else while being simultaneously responsible for said someone else's survival is just radically difficult to bear. As in, one of us slamming the other's fingers in a door and the other throwing a fork. From your conversation, you may have learned some things about your wife. Thanks for your advice and notes to consider.
But then I read an article about pregnancy and childbirth and I think no again. Could practically hear my clock ticking. I have no time to shower, let alone see a counselor. I agree that breast milk is the best for ur baby but formula is not that bad either. Honestly, no, that has never crossed either of our mind's when it comes to our son. See, I don't know because no, I do not use having one child as an excuse to re-live my early 20s. This may help your partner feel that you are both equally responsible for and in control of your decisions regarding children.
I got to tell her yes she could work for my radio show. Today we're learning all about homeopathy and how it can naturally help treat common ailments many women experience while pregnant. And then one day, she was driving away in a new car that her on-again, off-again, big-time screenwriting boyfriend had given her. If you disagree, discuss the reasons you don't want children and the reasons she wants more. Is the baby too cold? Even half a pound would be great! Please don't call me selfish, because it kinda just feels like your jealousy is showing. I got pregnant at 15 years old and was very scared. I don't know about you, but all of the social skills I have or, you know, maybe sometimes don't have , I learned from being at school with my friends.
Having a child against your will isn't mentally healthy for you, or for your future child if they ever learn that they were secretly unwanted by one of their parents. Just writing this paragraph raised my heart rate and put a knot in my stomach all over again. I just look at old pictures of my boys in their high chairs after eating spaghetti and my baby fever is instantly cured. Being lonely is easier than being heartbroken. You have a 5 week old and a 2 year old? I'm feeling a little baby lust myself and my damn siblings won't give me nieces and nephews to let me get my baby fix. Enjoy the non-menopause years while you can.
Learning to love and not want to possess. We are discussing therapy but haven't made that decision. Another year or so and those kids will be able to pack their own suitcases! They also take long afternoon naps. As for the nephews you already do have well they are just kids and yes indeed kids can be brats and a handful at times however changes start to happen when they begin to grow and if you are involved in their lives and stay involved you might be pleasantly surprised as to how they turn out and their relationship with you. I don't even like to hold babies, much less give birth to one. Spend time together as a family.
We still have to plan around nap time. Being a parent makes you think of other children, which is to say, makes you less selfish. The longer you breastfeed the better for the baby. I've suffered with depression in my past and one day I realized I needed to do what was best for me and my health. One day something inside of me snapped and I told myself that I was making the decision then and there.
Firstvof all i'm here for some help, not to be judged please. Good luck with whatever you decide. There is enough negative in our lives without adding more. Is formula really that bad? Extra change of clothes for kiddo in the car in a ziplock. You'd never guess he once weighed 5 pounds. I finally went up to her and promised I wasn't a creeper who was going to steal her baby.
They are given everything whenever they want it or they will hit their mother or grandmother Personally, my kids would catch it if they ever tried hitting me or anyone else. Seriously its ok if you don't sweep and mop or wipe out sinks. I don't have to: wipe butts, cut meat, put on coats, carry them, bathe them, or put on shoes. Which is even more proof parenthood makes you less selfish. Getting pregnant made everything clear.